Khalil Gibran

I love you when you bow in your Mosque, Kneel in your Temple, Pray in your Church. For you and I are sons of one religion, and it is in spirit

Saturday, July 16, 2011

Ignorance is Bliss. (The Acceptance of Self-Delusion)

There is an old saying that goes "Ignorance is Bliss". We say it often, but I don't really think many of us knows what it actually means. The root word of ignorance is "ignore". What is ignore? To ignore is to refuse & acknowledge or intentionally disregard or recognize the obvious. So when we say "Ignorance is Bliss" were saying, not knowing something is more comfortable than knowing.

It is natural for human beings to go into a self-preservation mode when they believe their life is in danger, whether it be physically or emotionally. We protect ourselves from physical external danger in order for continual life and survival. We emotionally guard ourselves usually after we have been emotionally damaged in the past from a broken heart, hurt from a family member from friends, most of the time from the people we love or care about. These are natural actions & reactions that occurs without intent.

But what I find interesting is the way we go into this self-preservation mode mentally & psychologically. Out of all these self-preservation modes, protecting the mental & psychological self seems to be the only one we will intentionally immerse ourselves into when we are faced with a reality that contradicts the way we were raised. We intentionally ignore proven facts & truth because it may go against what we've been conditioned to learn our entire lives.

The interesting part of this is that if we knew someone who grew up next to us our entire lives, whether it be a brother, sister, cousin, or friend and you both are spoon fed the same stories as a child, but this person decides to go against status quo and venture outside the realm of what you've learned, then this person returns to inform you and everyone else that what you've learned is not reality. This person is ostracized or villified. He/she is accused of being uppity, evil, or not real anymore. And can be threatened with death.



For some of my readers you may already be familiar with "Allegory of the Cave" by the Greek Philospher Plato. But for those of you who are not, I strongly encourage you to continue to read this blog because I will attempt to give you a synopsis of the story.

Allegory of the Cave is a story told by Plato in his work "The Republic" to illustrate our nature in its education and want of an education. It is written as a fictional dialogue between Plato's teacher Socrates and Platos brother Glaucon.

INSIDE THE CAVE

Socrates describes a group of people who have lived chained to the wall of a cave all of their lives. they are facing a blank wall, the people watch shadows projected on the wall by things passing in front of a fire behind them, and begin to personify these shadows. He asks Glaucon to imagine a cave inhabited by people who have been chained and held there since childhood: not only are their arms and legs held in place, but their heads are also fixed, they have no choice but to stare at a wall in front of them. Behind these people is a blazing fire, and between the fire and the people is a walkway, on this walkway people are walking carrying things on their head. These are figures of men and animals made of wood, brick and other materials". The people watch the shadows cast by the men, not knowing they are shadows. There are also echoes off the wall from the noise produced from the walkway.

Socrates suggests the people would believe the shadows to be real things and the echoes to be real sounds, not just reflections of reality, since they are all they had ever seen or heard. After a while they would begin to give praise to the persons who could  guess which shadow would come next, as someone who understood the nature of the world, and the whole of their society would depend on the shadows on the wall.

RELEASED FROM THE CAVE

Socrates then says lets suppose one of these people are freed from the shackles and allowed to stand up. Then someone shows this person the figure that were actually casting the figures on the wall. This person will not recognize them or name them and will still continue to believe the shadows on the wall is more real than what he sees with his own eyes.

Say he is then instructed to look at the fire, wouldn't he be almost struck with blindness and through self-preservation try to revert back to looking at the shadows, because that is his reality. He is then forced out of the cave. He will kick and scream and fight initially. Once he is completely out the cave he will be disoriented, the light will be to bright for his ees that is accustomed to darkness. But after some time, his eyes will aclimate to the light. He will then realize that it is the Sun that is responsible for the changing of the seasons, it is the source of life, it gives them light to see all that they survey outside the cave.

RETURN TO THE CAVE

This person has now returned to the cave. Socrates then asks Glaucon to think about the condition of this man. He would remember his first home and what passed for knowledge and wisdom there, he would remember his family and friends. He would then consider himself wiser, learned & happier and consider them unlearned and in darkness. He  would begin to develope a distaste for the things they honor and praise, and the gifts they were awarded for who guessed best which shadows followed which. Also, when he returned he would be terrible at the game he once use to play, because he is no longer in darkness. The people would actually tell him he went up and came back corrupted, he no longer know where he comes from. And in their opinion it's not even worth them to try and go up. They'd rather stay where they are in their own reality. And if they were somehow able to get their hands on and kill the man who attempts to release and lead them up, they would do it.

MORAL OF THE STORY

We as a people not only black people but people as a whole are comfortable with our ignorance. We feel safe where we are because it is our comfort zone. Anyone who is exposed to the light and cmes back to teach us, lead us and guide us will be considered the enemy. I say it is time for us to come into the light. This story can apply to so many facids of our lives. Whether its "The Hood Keep it Real" mentality "Our spiritual & religious beliefs" our idea on "Community Upliftment and Family". What do you think? Until next time .......Peace

Sunday, July 3, 2011

Pro-Choice or Pro-Life (Why both of their arguments fail & why men can't be either)

A pro-choice person says "77% of anti-abortion leaders are men but 100% will never be pregnant". A pro-life person says "Its funny, 100% of the people who are pro-choice have already been born".

Are pro-choice advocates a bunch of selfish angry feminist women & irresponsible men who have waged a personal intafadah on infants? Or are pro"lifers a bunch bible thumping religous zealouts who's sole purpose is to force everyone to think & believe like them? Well, depending on who you are and how passionate you are on this particular subject, you probably believe one of these. However, you can't really lump people who disagrees with your argument in to one of these narrow minded groups.

I understand many people in our country don't really get into politics they don't listen to the politican who supports there side. They don't take part into the democratic process by voting on the politician who supports there side. Or engage into social protest by letting your voice be heard to add to the sea of others who are on your side to make your side 1 person louder than the others. Furthermore, some of us don't even watch CNN, MSNBC, Fox News or even the local news for that much to get up to date news on the issue. With all of that being said, the abortion fight is very unique, it seems to be one of the few issues where everyone seems to have an opinion on whether they are knowlegable of the history of the fight or not.

What I have realized in my growth of wisdom, political awarness & constitutional rights is that it doesn't matter what I think in this subject. The fact that I have a penis makes my opinion null & void. Now before you pro-choicers get excited  by that last statment, you also have to realize that the men who support your side, there opinion is null & void as well. I'm not here to argue one side over the other, I'm not here to judge anyone. What I will attempt to do with this article is explain why the current abortion law violates our constitution and why the religious right is wrong, and why men cannot be apart of the fight until it's equal by law.

If you approached anyone who is pro-choice and simply asked them "Should any woman be forced into motherhood?" They will answer you before you even finish the question with a very confident & stern NO! However, on my day to day dealings with dads as a fatherhood outreach worker, I can confidently say around 70% of the fathers were forced into parenthood even though they weren't ready.

When we a woman & particularly a young girl become pregnant she has a very important decision to make. She decides whether to keep the child or not. If she keeps the child she becomes a young mother, she has brought a life into this world, experienced one of the world greatest miracles. Or, she can choose to have an abortion. If she goes this route, in the opinion of some people in our society she has made a very responsible decision, she has chose to focus on her future, she chose to establish financial stability, she chose to get her education. And whenever she does decide to have a kids, the child will have a greater chance of success in life. Either way she is hailed as a very responsible person making responsible decisions. Here is the problem.

Men or even young boys aren't given that choice. If this same young girl gets pregnant and chooses to have the kid but the dad  says he isn't ready to be a dad for the same exact reasons I stated in the above paragraph for the young girl, He is immediately ostracized, he is called irresponsible, he is demonized for even brining up the idea. He is told "If you are man enough to lay down & have sex you should be man enough to take care of the child". Or, if you didn't want any kids you should've kept your pants up, or you should have you used a condom. I'm sorry that is just empty rhetoric used to justify a means. We don't tell the girl she should have kept her pants up and nevermind the fact that she allowed him to be down there in the first place without a condom.

Many people are unware that during the original Roe v Wade arguments the pro-choice side argued that all men do is provide to the female a "Viable Tissue Mass" (sperm), but it is soley the females decision or choice to allow the tissue to cultivate and become a embryo or a child, so the man has no right to decide whether she should keep it or not. So I will ask this question, because she is the one who soley decides alone to allow the tissue to cultivate & decides to keep the child. Why are we going after men for child support, why are we telling them they have to support something they had no choice in creating. We tell these men it took 2 to make this child when its time to rape their pockest for weelky child support payments, but then on the other hand we tell them its none of their business, its between the woman & her doctor if the child is to even come into existence.

I've been married almost 8 years, and if my wife becomes pregnant, it is her choice and her choice alone to keep the child. I as the husband legally have no rights to that decision, I cannot tell her she has to keep it nor can I tell her to abort it. However, if she was to have an affair & get preganat from the affair, I as the husband by Michigan Law is legally responsible for the child even if the DNA proves I'm not the father. So if I divorce her because of the affair I still have to pay her child support for that child because the laws says any child born in a marriage automatically belongs to the husband. There's your EQUAL RIGHTS.

I want to briefly touch on this whole responsibilty issue because as I said before we often tell the boy or man that he should keep his pants up, zipper closed or condom wrapped tight but we don't tell the girls this. The only equality both the male & female have is the decisions they make right before they have sex. But right after sex is over, that is were the men or the boys rights & choices end. After that every decision belongs to her. Young girls and women are given numerous ways to evade responsiblity and are provided different methods of prevention. Lets take a look.



Women/Girls options before after & during pregnacy

1. Surgical Abortions
2. Non-Surgical Abortion
3. The Abortion Pill RU-487
4. Birth Control Pill
5. The morning after pill
6. Condoms
7. Adoption
8. Legal abandonment (Safe haven laws)
9. Abstinence

Men/Boys options before after and during pregnancy

1. Condoms
2. Abstinence

Now let me kill this argument now before you start trying to use this as a cornerstone for your case. I am not talking about cases of Rape or Incest, were studies show that this is less than 0.01% of the reasons for abortions. I believe educating our young girls and is some cases grown women about the services provided in cases of those two horrific events that reporting it immediately can do 2 things.

1. Have a greater chance of bringing the criminal who raped them or the the relative who impregnated her to justice
2. Terminate or prevent a unwanted pregnancy by using the morning after pill, or the RU-487 pill

Some of my critics say that if men are given a choice like women, then we are going to have men running around having kids by the dozens & not supporting them leaving the mom to support them alone (scoff) like thats not already happening, and is it any worse than her dropping the child off at the local church, police station, fire station, or hospital legally leaving the child with no parents let alone just one.

So as I close this I will explain why both sides have it wrong and why men can't be either.

Pro-Lifers: The whole religious argument is ridiculus, especially in a country where there is a separation of Church & State. The United States is a  Republic not a Theocracy nor really is it a Democracy. What do you tell a couple who are atheist. You may not agree with their outlook on life, but they are just as American and patriotic as you are, and deserve protection under the law.

Pro-Choicers: Your argument fails because the Equal Rights Amendment is suppose to affirm that women & men have equal protection under the law, even if that protection is from unwanted parenthood that is afforded to women.

Men: Until that amendment is fully recognized and enforced you really can't be either because you have no power to excercise that right whether you are pro-choice or pro-life.

So until then i'm telling the extremist on both sides "Get a life" no pun intended....Until next time...Peace

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